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Overdue Apologies

I was talking with someone about how people can be really mean in high school and remembered the uncomfortable truth that I was mean to people in high school. I felt bad and wished that I’d been better. I thought about apologizing to people I’d been mean to and was on the fence about whether that’d be kind or just self-serving. I decided to go ahead and apologize and sent messages to a couple people I’d been mean to. I was surprised by their replies:

James, thank you very much for your words. It means a lot to me no matter when it was said. Apology accepted. I am doing well and I hope you are too.


No problem we were all kids
Hope you are doing well

Sounds like the apology really meant something to one person and hardly anything to the other. I wouldn’t have guessed.

I’m also glad that I apologized. It felt like part of fully owning up to what I did.